Month: November 2017

Paul E. Harmeier passes away

Paul E. Harmeier, a retired chemical engineer, of Darien, CT and Barbados, West Indies, died peacefully on October 24th, his 87th birthday, after a brief illness, with family members at his side. His wife, Shealeagh, predeceased him in 2012.

He is survived by his daughters, Nancy and Janice, his son-in-law Christopher Day, and three grandchildren, May, Connor and Claire Karaffa, all of Greenwich. He is also survived by his sister, Veronica Lind of Pittsburgh, PA.

He was born in Pittsburgh, PA in 1930. After graduating from Penn State, he served as an engineering officer aboard the battleship USS Wisconsin during the Korean War. Following discharge from the US Navy, he was employed by Mobil Oil Corporation in various engineering and lube analyst positions for 30 years until his retirement at age 55.

He thoroughly enjoyed his retirement. He spent the winter months in Barbados where he was a visiting member of the Barbados Yacht Club and a member of the Rockley Golf Club. He was a member of the Middlesex Club in Darien and the GOBs a senior men’s interclub tennis group in Fairfield County. He was also a member of the Silvermine Golf Club in Norwalk for more than 50 years where he shot his only hole in one.

He was a voracious reader and he spent many happy hours at the Darien Library where he was appreciative of the staff’s efforts to obtain obscure books for him. His membership in the Darien Men’s Association provided fellowship, interesting lectures, and field trips to local areas of interest. He was a member of the Apostrophe Protection Society whose mission is to prevent the misuse of apostrophes. He enjoyed riding his bicycle to the Convent of St. Birgitta in Darien where enjoyed visiting the nuns in their lovely setting and where he and his family have celebrated Christmas Eve for many years.

Funeral services and interment are private.

An American Family by Khizer Khan

Khan’s aspirational memoir reminds us all why Americans should welcome newcomers from all lands.”₇–was In this urgent and timeless immigrant story, we learn that Khizr Khan has been many things. He was the oldest of ten children born to farmers in Pakistan, and a curious and thoughtful boy who listened rapt as his grandfather recited Rumi beneath the moonlight. He was a university student who read the Declaration of Independence and was awestruck by what might be possible in life. He was a hopeful suitor, awkwardly but earnestly trying to win the heart of a woman far out of his league. He was a brilliant and diligent young family man who worked two jobs to save enough money to put himself through Harvard Law School. He was a loving father who, having instilled in his children the ideals that brought him and his wife to America₇the sense of shared dignity and mutual responsibility₇tragically lost his son, an Army captain killed while protecting his base camp in Iraq. He was and is a patriot, and a fierce advocate for the rights, dignities, and values enshrined in the American system.–₇Senator John McCain


Recommended by Gary Banks

Obituary: Hilary Peter Donegan

Hilary Peter DonPreview (opens in a new window)egan passed away peacefully at his home on November 18th 2017.

He was born in Farmingdale, New York on October 14, 1940 to Margaret Brady Donegan and Denis James Donegan.

He graduated from Farmingdale High School and C.W. Post College. He took great pride in his service in the United States Army. He began his career in wealth management at Banker’s Trust Company in 1964 and continued his career there until retiring as a Managing Director of Deutsche Bank in 2005.

He treasured his forty-six year membership at Winged Foot Golf Club where he proudly served on the Board of Governors from 1995 to 2000. His happiest moments were spending time with family and friends there. For him there was no more perfect place.

In recent years he thoroughly enjoyed participating in the Darien Men’s Association. The friendship and fellowships he strengthened there meant the world to him.

He was an active volunteer serving as the president of the STAR, Inc. Foundation which serves families affected by developmental & intellectual disabilities. His true purpose as a father came from being the voice and best friend of his son Brian.

He is survived by his beloved family, Carol his wife of forty-two years and his sons Denis, Brian and Colin. He is also survived by his brothers Denis and Dick and his sister Cissy Moffatt.

Calling hours will be at Lawrence Funeral Home in Darien on Sunday November 26, from 3 to 6 p.m. A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at Saint Thomas More Church in Darien on Monday November 27th at 10:30 a.m. Interment will follow with Full Military Honors at Spring Grove Cemetery in Darien.

In lieu of flowers the family requests memorial gifts be made in Hilary’s memory to the STAR Foundation, or at 182 Wolfpit Ave., Norwalk, CT 06851 or to Camp Horizons, or at PO Box 323, South Windham, CT 06266.

Saxon Woods Hike Friday, Nov 17, 2017 10.00am

We will be hiking at Saxon Woods Park in Scarsdale, NY on Friday Nov 17 at 10 am. This is a 700 acre county park and contains an 18 hole golf course, tennis courts, a huge swimming pool, soccer fields and several miles of hiking trails in the woods. We will be hiking the part of the
park that is south of the Hutchinson Parkway off exit 22. The trails here are wide, well maintained and well marked and largely devoid of treacherous roots and rocks. We will hike a loop of about 3.5 miles which will take us 2-2.5 hours. This promises to be a most enjoyable
hike and we welcome our regular hikers as well as newcomers. Spouses and significant others will find this hike fun.

After the hike, at around 12.30pm we will have lunch(optional) at the nearby Red Plum Restaurant, a highly regarded and popular place serving mouth-watering Asian dishes at reasonable luncheon prices. ( Located at 251 Mamaroneck Ave, Mamaroneck).

Head South on the Merritt Parkway into Westchester. Take Exit 22 off the Hutch and make a left turn at the top of exit ramp onto Mamaroneck Road. Proceed about 200 yards and then make a left into the parking lot of the Weinberg Nature Center, marked by an easy to miss sign.

Address: 455 Mamaroneck Road, Scarsdale.
Meeting Time at parking lot: 10.00am
Contact: Sunil Saksena, 203-561- 8601,

Obituary: Edward Carabillo, 90, of Darien and Misquamicut, RI

Edward Carabillo, 90, of Darien and Misquamicut, RI, husband of the late Nancy (Berry) Carabillo, died Sunday October 15, 2017 in a motor vehicle accident.

The son of Antonio and Laura (Pallanga) Carabillo, Ed was born and raised in Hartford and graduated from Weaver High School. After discharge from the U.S. Army, he attended Willimantic State Teachers College, where he met and married his beloved Nancy. Ed and Nancy were married for 50 years before she passed away from ALS in 2001.

A licensed hairdresser and gifted salesman, Ed worked many years for Clairol, finishing as a corporate executive in their NYC headquarters. Ed then bought a beauty supply business, The Brownie Company, in New Haven, where he employed a number of family members, including his 3 daughters and his nephew Rodney Carabillo. In his later years, Ed continued working in the beauty supply industry, most recently at CosmoPro in Norwalk, CT.

Ed is survived by three daughters and their husbands, Caroline and William Wall of Wallingford, Antonia and Richard Conti of Coventry, and Henrica and Aaron Holden of Granby, as well as grandchildren, Brian Wall and partner Jenny Macintosh, Peter and his wife Deanna Wall, Timothy and his wife Tina Wall, Kevin Wall and his girlfriend Amy Reno, Nicholas Holden, Christopher Holden, Faith Conti and Nancy Conti, several nieces and nephews, and his significant other, Natalie Einson of Westport.

Ed was predeceased by brothers Frank, Jim and Dom, and grandson Daniel.

Ed was very active in St. Thomas More Church in Darien where he served as a Eucharist Minister and usher, formerly organized the Children’s Mass, and managed the Count Team. He also volunteered his time in the Darien community and for several charitable events.

Ed’s biggest joy was “keeping the family together.” He loved sharing stories with family and friends. Grandpop, as he was affectionately called by family for his final 34 years, was an avid fan of the New York Giants, the Boston Red Sox, UConn and local restaurants. He devoured the New York Times, the Daily News, and 3 local papers, and Ed would gladly talk about national and local politics and events with anyone he met.

Bishop Emeritus Paul S. Loverde of Arlington, VA will celebrate a Mass of Christian Burial at St. Dunstan Church, 1345 Manchester Road, Glastonbury, CT on Saturday November 11, 2017 at 10 a.m., with interment at Mt. St. Benedict Cemetery in Bloomfield. There will be no calling hours.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to the ALS Association of CT, 4 Oxford Road, Unit D-4, Milford, CT 06460, Americares, or a charity of the donor’s choice.

The Holmes-Watkins Funeral Home, 400 Main Street, Manchester has care of arrangements. To leave a message for his family, please visit


Thursday December 21st at 10:30am

St. Thomas More Church, 374 Middlesex Road, Darien

A Memorial Mass will be held at St. Thomas More Church on Thursday, December 21st at 10:30am in memory of Edward Carabillo, a long term Darien resident. Ed was very active for many years at St. Thomas More where he served as a Eucharistic Minister and an usher. He played a special role in organizing the Children’s Mass for many years and he managed the weekly Count Team for the offertory. Ed also volunteered his time in the Darien community and for several charitable events. He was active in the Piedmont Club, the Darien Men’s Association, the Darien Monuments & Ceremonies Commission and served as a Darien Memorial Day Parade official. Ed was best known for his love of his family, church and country. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to: the ALS Association of CT, 4 Oxford Road, Unit D-4, Milford, CT 06460; or to Americares; or to a charity of the donor’s choice.

Jon Zagrodzky, Darien’s 2018-2019 Budget Process, December 20, 2017

Jon Zagrodsky

Jon Zagrodzky will talk about the upcoming 2018-2019 budget process, focusing on possible scenarios and the effects of state-level budget challenges on Darien’s finances. He will also comment on broader governance issues, both for Darien and the state of Connecticut. There will be as much levity and irreverence as a discussion of these topics permits. Jon is chairman of the Darien Board of Finance, an elected seven-member board responsible for the town’s $140 million annual budget; he has been in office as a board member since 2008. He also serves as a member of Darien’s Town and Police Pension boards and the Public Works Garage Building Committee. He was president of the Darien Historical Society from 2011 to 2015. In addition, he is a member of the Board of Trustees of the Forman School, a Litchfield (Conn.) high school that specializes in children with learning differences. Jon is chief operating officer for Rhône Group LLC, which he joined in April 2017. Rhône is a middle-market private equity firm with offices in New York and London. He is responsible for finance, operations, human resources, administration, information technology and business planning. Prior to joining Rhône, Jon served as chief administrative officer at Oak Hill Capital Partners, and, prior to that, he was an associate principal and later director of financial planning and analysis at McKinsey & Company. Jon earned a B.A. degree in economics and Romance languages from Washington & Lee University and an M.B.A. degree from The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania.
Arranged by John Wolcott

Video of his talk:

Dave Pressler: Photographer, “Australia, All Over – Down Under”, December 13, 2017

Dave Pressler, Connecticut photographer, artist and designer, shares a dynamic presentation, “Australia, All Over – Down Under,” documented during his adventures on that continent. Recorded through his visual awareness are Australia’s dramatic land and water forms, wildlife, unique botanicals, ancient aboriginal rock art, creative architecture and some humorous items from contemporary culture. His core message is “learning to look in order to see,” encouraging people of all ages and backgrounds to become visually conscious of the world around them. So bring an open mind … and don’t forget to come with your eyes wide open. Dave holds a degree in industrial design from Rhode Island School of Design, where he studied with the famed photographer Harry Callahan. Dave has exhibited widely in Fairfield and Westchester counties and judged numerous photography competitions, including the Westport Y’s Men’s Senior Center’s Annual Photography Expo. He is a member of the Connecticut Association of Photographers, as well as a former board member of the Norwalk Camera Club. He is currently vice president of ART/PLACE Gallery in Fairfield; founder and
member of the Curatorial Committee of Fairfield Public Library’s Bruce S. Kershner Gallery; guild member and former trustee of the Silvermine Arts Center in New Canaan; and artist member of the Center for Contemporary Printmaking and the Westport Arts Center. Dave is also a board member and host of the Connecticut Symphonic Winds ensemble performances at Roger Ludlowe Middle School. He has been involved with the American Museum of Natural History in New York City; the Field Museum of Natural History in Chicago; and the Hudson River Museum in Westchester County, N.Y. His professional career has been in corporate identity and branding, product and package design, advertising and exhibition design.
Arranged by Andre Guilbert

Video of his talk:

Claudia Connor: Connecticut Institute for Refugees and Immigrants, December 6, 2017

Wednesday, December 6, 2017
Claudia Connor will talk about the Connecticut Institute for Refugees and Immigrants (CIRI), the populations it serves and programs it delivers: refugee resettlement, immigration legal services, and services for survivors of human trafficking and torture. Claudia will also address the impact national-level changes in refugee admissions and immigration policy have on CIRI’s clients. She is president and CEO of CIRI, formerly known as the International Institute of Connecticut). She has close to 30 years of program management, advocacy, and legal and strategic leadership experience in the nonprofit sector in the United States, Africa and Southeast Asia. Prior to joining CIRI in 2015, Claudia worked at Save the Children on the Strategic Foundation Partnerships team. Previously, she worked at the International Rescue Committee as a senior technical advisor in the Governance & Rights Unit, regional director in U.S. Programs supervising refugee resettlement offices across the country, and director of National Refugee Resettlement Programs. Overseas, Claudia was a consultant with UNICEF, the Carter Center, Save the Children UK and Population Services International, among other agencies, working on issues such as child trafficking, child soldiers, women’s rights, juvenile justice and the impact of HIV/AIDS. Before moving overseas in 1998, Claudia was a senior trial attorney for the Legal Aid Society in New York. She has a B.A. in history from the University of North Carolina and a J.D. from Brooklyn Law School. Claudia lives in Norwalk with her husband and three sons.
Arranged by John Wolcott
Wednesday, December


Don McGran: Personal Cyber Security, November 29,2017

Don McGran will talk about personal cybersecurity, identity theft, scams and frauds, as well as personal crime prevention and safety. The presentation is based on what is presently occurring in the greater Darien area. His law enforcement career, coupled with private bank security experience, enables him to provide audiences with the most timely and current information possible. Don has presented more than 100 times to groups of various ages, income brackets and walks of life throughout Fairfield County. He is a 30-year-veteran of the Ridgefield Police Department, retiring in 2011 as a major. Don is a graduate of Western Connecticut State University with a bachelor of science in justice and law administration and has completed graduate studies at Western Connecticut State University, the University of New Haven and the University of Virginia. He is a graduate of the FBI National Academy Session 189 and has been employed as security advisor for Fairfield County Bank for the past six years.
Arranged by Sunil Saksena



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for security freeze.
 Check your state’s listing for the exact cost of your credit freeze and to see if there is a
reduction in cost if you are a senior citizen.
 Request your credit freeze by certified mail using this sample letter. Please note the
attachments you must include.
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 Credit freezes may be done online, by phone (1-888- 909-8872) or by certified mail –
return receipt requested.

 Check your state’s listing for the exact cost of your credit freeze and to see if there is a
reduction in cost if you are a senior citizen.
 Request your credit freeze by certified mail using this sample letter. Please note the
attachments you must include.
 Unfreeze: Do a temporary thaw of your TransUnion credit freeze online or by calling 1-
888-909- 8872.
 Info on freezing a child’s credit with TransUnion can be found here.
 If requesting a freeze by mail, use the following address:
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6) internet safe search tool
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 Don McGran
 Security Advisor
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Art Gottlieb: The Korean War Part 2. November 15, 2017

Art Gottlieb

Art Gottlieb

Art Gottlieb will continue his discussion of the Korean situation, speaking of the rising tension today between the United States and the Democratic People’s Republic of Korea (North Korea). These two countries have reached the highest level of military and political brinkmanship since the negotiated ceasefire of the Korean War some 65 years ago. With Kim Jong un, North Korea’s leader intent on developing a nuclear arsenal capable of reaching the U.S. mainland, the Trump administration has initiated a dramatic policy change in this region, demonstrating that the decades-old approach of “strategic patience” has ended. Art will explore recent developments between these adversarial nations, as well as the other governments directly and indirectly involved: China, Iran, South Korea and Japan.
Arranged by Tom Lom


Art Gottlieb: The Korean War Part 1. November 8th, 2017

Art Gottlieb

Art Gottlieb

Wednesday, November 8, 2017
Art Gottlieb will talk about the Korean War. Initially described as a “police action” in reaction to North Korea’s invasion of South Korea on June 25, 1950, the Korean War was an undeclared military action, the first authorized by the United Nations. Often referred to as the “Forgotten War,” this still unresolved conflict saw Seoul change hands no less than four times before the signing of a contentious armistice on July 27, 1953. Art served as a professional curator of naval history and technical director of exhibits at the Intrepid Sea, Air & Space Museum in New York City. He has worked with veterans of all services creating exhibits accurately and illustrating the history of 20th-century warfare. He has helped recover scores of artifacts from warships slated for demolition. He coordinates with all branches of the armed services to preserve historic ships, aircraft and armor from around the world. Art also serves as a counselor and certified senior advisor in Norwalk. He uses his professional talents to address the needs of aging veterans and their families and offers pro bono counseling services to soldiers returning from Iraq and Afghanistan. He served as an auxiliary officer of the United States Coast Guard for 17 years and, for four years, was commander of Flotilla 7-w, 1st District (Southern Region), Sector Long Island Sound North.
Arranged by Tom Lom


Dick Delfosse: Norwalk Islands History, Secrets, Stories, Navigation, Wednesday, November 1, 2017

Rick Delfosse will talk about the “Norwalk Islands: Their Formation, History, Secrets, Stories and Navigation.” From the Ice Age and the formation of Long Island Sound by the retreating glaciers, the Indians and early settlers to the oyster industry, hotels, bordellos and Prohibition speakeasies, the islands represent a rich history. The islands played an integral part in the development of Norwalk and the local region. Public islands, private sanctuaries and posh retreats all are right off the Norwalk coastline. Come and discover their history, along with navigation and anchorages, tips and tricks around the 25+ islands. Rick is the business manager at Rex Marine & Norwalk Cove Marina and is a Coast Guard captain. He also is a National Safe Boating Council close quarters and open water boat handling instructor, Connecticut and New York certified safe boating instructor, and a U.S. Sailing certified instructor. He conducts on-the-water courses and classroom seminars on coastal cruising and boating skills. The owner of a 43-foot pilot house cutter and an AquaSport powerboat, he has extensive cruising and one-design coastal and offshore racing experience.
Arranged by Sunil Saksena